Meredith Ryncarz-Only a Second Shooter

Imagine walking into a wedding industry event and leaving more deflated than when you got there, feeling more angry and frustrated with your career choices than ever before.  That’s how I felt walking out of a workshop last year.  I had asked a simple question and one that I thought a leader in the wedding industry might know.  After all this is a heavily saturated military town with several veterans and military spouses attending that day.  I didn’t get the answer I wanted that day, but I got the answer I needed to fire me up just enough to make a change.

I asked the speaker what I as a military spouse could do to effectively move my business every three years.  His response felt like a slap in the face.  He said “This is the life you chose and you can get out at any time.  You decided to marry a military man.  If you want to be successful then make the choice to leave the military life, otherwise, just be happy being a decent second shooter for someone else when you move.”

This wasn’t the first time I had heard this line of reasoning coming from an industry pro but it was the harshest and most blunt version of it.  I left feeling angry and hurt, but somewhere stuck in the ever present traffic that is highway 64 I realized that I already had the answer.  I was tired of leaving mentoring sessions and workshops being told that I had to settle for just being a good hobbyist or a decent second shooter.  I wanted more and I knew that I wasn’t the only one out there.

I started looking at past years revenues and analyzing what had worked and what hadn’t.  I began formulating and process mapping how to recreate my successes.  The inner nerd in me came out.  As I dug in deep, I found others who were struggling with being told they would never own a business or be successful at it and I began mentoring them.

Out of that one painful incident, the Restart Specialist was born.  I am grateful for those harsh words because they pushed me to move past the box the wedding industry wants to put me in.  Their viewpoint that because we relocate we can’t own a successful business is wrong.  Do I have to work harder, smarter, and faster because we move . . . yes.  Do I have to run my business a little bit differently  .  . .yes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I chose this life, this man, this business and I wouldn’t have it any other way!